Raising Resilient Children and Teens from Tough Love

Before you dive in to protect your children, ask yourself three questions:

1. Does my child need a little extra support right now so she will be more confident moving forward?
2. Do I so relish the feeling of being needed that I may be choosing to jump in because it makes me feel good myself or because I believe my child's appreciation will draw him closer to me?
3. Is this an issue of safety or  morality? If the answer is yes, act immediately and firmly

Rules for building a resilient child:

1. Unconditional love is the bedrock of resilience because it creates security;
2. Children live up or down to adult expectations, for better or worse;
3. And children watch what we do more than they listen to what we say.

By Kennth R. Ginsuburg, MD, MSED, A pediatrician specializing in adolescent medicine, a professor of pediatrics and a parent of two teenage daughters 

Books I Recently Read

1.  Will College Pay Off ? A guide to the most important financial decision you'll ever make by Peter Cappelli, how to maximize Ivy League education
2. The second machine age; work, progress, and prosperity in a time of brilliant technologies by Eric Brynjolfsson and Andrew McAffey, how to survive AI revolution 
3. Why good people can't get jobs by Peter Cappelli
4. 30 million words by Susan Suskind
5. 与韩国人打交道， 洪少辉著

Words of wisdom

1. Self-organizing learning environments (SOLEs)
1. Self-directed learning
2. Hands-on engagement with wide variety of materials (including plants and animals)
3. Largely unstructured school day
2. "杀死一个人是悲剧，杀死一万个人是统计数字." -- 斯大林
3. "Judge a man by his questions, not by his answers." -- Voltaire
4. "Work saves a man from three great evils: boredom, vice and need." -- Voltaire
5. "Seek to be an indispensable complement to something that's getting cheap and plentiful". -- Hal Varian
6. "Airplanes don't flap their wings." -- Frederick Jelinek
7.  "低端文人研究道德，高端文人研究美感。" -- 万维钢 
8. "It is comparatively easy to make computers exhibit ault-level performance on intelligence tests or playing checkers, and difficult or impossible to give them the skills of a one-year-old when it comes to perception and mobility." -- Hans Moravec 
9. “每一个数学公式都能让这本书的销量减少一半” -- Stephen Hawkings
10. "朕非亡国之君，臣皆亡国之臣" -- 崇祯
11. Achievements doesn't necessarily lead to happiness, but the happiness can cultivate achievement. --- except from The happiest Kids in the Worlds, How Dutch Parents Help Their Kids by Doing Less
12. 要判断一个人的一生成就，只要认真观察他自身是否拥有较高的学习意愿、较强的反省能力、较大的包容态度、较深厚的专业知识，以及持久的阅读习惯。 -- 高希均